Stages of Becoming A Fangirl/Fanboy

Okay honestly nobody is born a fangirl or fanboy, whatever anyone else might tell you.

If this was the case doctors would probably be getting heart attacks when babies sprout out reciting book quotes and squealing ‘DON’T DIE!’

There are certain stages which you have to go through during which you develop from oh-I-actually-might-like-reading to I-WILL-SHIP-EVERYTHING-IN-EVERY-BOOK. And it’s not overnight either though this transformation may occur at different ages for different people.

So let’s get into how you really become a fangirl or fanboy!

Stage 1

This is the time period where you begin to develop a liking for reading like hey I’ve got some free time so why not read? You no longer see reading books as boring or a burden and your friends are probably finding that weird. Trust me, it’s going to get a whole lot weirder!


Stage 2

Now your other priorities are getting side-lined because you HAVE to read books. That liking has quickly turned into massive love just as quickly as the pages of your book turn. Most people(including me) have no idea when exactly this happens. All they know is that BOOM!

They don’t want to go hang out with friends, binge-watch a Netflix show, play video games or just do about anything other than reading. It can be horrifying because you’ll find yourself short on time now

Stage 3

This is when you’re up all night because OH MY GOD YOU CANNOT STOP AT THAT PART.


The concept of ‘one more chapter’ or ‘just ten more pages’ is introduced which is just your way of saying I’m going to finish this book, all hell be damned.

This can be accompanied by symptoms like:

  • second hand embarrassment when the characters do something mortifying
  • increase in heart rate
  • obscene disappointment when a book ends
  • emotional attachments to the characters and a deep hollow feeling when they die

Stage 4

At this stage you’ve lost yourself and there is no chance of recovery from this because at this point of time you decide to join a fandom. Oh, you say. Fandoms seem fun! It’s a community where you discuss and debate your love and feelings over the book or series you read. What could go wrong?



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But don’t worry, you’re not really going to mind it in a while…

The symptoms include:

  • screaming at the characters whenever they’re acting stupid
  • sobbing over deaths of fictional characters
  • cursing cliffhangers
  • book hangovers
  • squealing, cooing and intensely shipping fictional characters
  • having otps
  • sniffing books
  • crushing on fictional characters because they’re hotter than homo sapiens duh


Stage 5


You’re already part of multiple fandoms, have collected posters and other merchandise, have multiple otps to the point you can’t even remember, secretly ship people in real life,  have an ultimate dream of owning the library from Beauty and the Beast, have already sold your soul to books, have a knowledge of all the new books in the market or those that are about to be released and basically breathe, eat and live  books.

It is now your personal mission to recruit every single human being on the planet to read the books you love and hiss at someone in disgust whenever they say you should do something other than read.


Reading is your life now.

And you know you’re in too deep when you start writing fanfictions, blogging about books, making fanarts and all that stuff.

Congratulations! You’re officially a Fangirl now!

Or Fanboy. (They’re precious species that are near extinction and must be preserved so if you see one send him my way).



I started reading when I was around 8 or maybe 10 years old. As I said, I used to ‘like’ reading and suddenly it developed into an intense love and addiction. Before I knew it I was swarming under books and had read almost all the fiction books in my library’s Children’s section.


I then discovered Wattpad, a site for writing and reading fanfiction and WHOA there was no coming back from that place. Soon enough I was writing fanfiction(way too cringey and crappy but then I was just 13), hoarding books and joining fandoms.

Percy Jackson was my first ever fandom and even though I’ve outgrown it I’m still very fond of it. I’m currently obsessed with everything Shadowhunters and Simon vs the Homo Sapiens Agenda and a hundred more books. Things have got rather out of hand but I like my nerdy, not so peaceful life and wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.

Through reading I’ve stumbled upon some amazing and supportive communities and people that have turned out to be great friends along with being actual humans to turn to when I have to yell about a book.

So what’s your reading story? Which stage are you at? Something tells me most of the people here would be at the last stage… Which are your current favorite fandoms? Tell me in the comments down below!



21 thoughts on “Stages of Becoming A Fangirl/Fanboy

  1. Ohh I love every single word of your post.. it’s like you have chronicled my life… 😊😊 I have loved reading for as long as I can remember and it’s the ultimate joy of my life.. Even though the number of books I could read reduced a lot through high school and college, it definitely improved when I got my job and I could finally buy 😍😍😍 Moving to US was amazing because the public library is free and I could read as many books as I wanted… But I had to stop working last year and that’s when I decided to start my blog.. And this last year has been amazing in terms of reading, coz I discovered the blogging community, so many awesome authors and joined fandoms too… All I want to do these days is read and nothing else… obviously that’s not so good for other aspects of my life, but reading is just so ❤️❤️❤️
    Sorry for the whole rant… I just loved your post too much and couldn’t stop myself…

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    • Thank you so much, Sahi! I totally get what you mean! Reading is tough during school life and buying books with your own money sounds like so much fun 😍😍😍 The bookish community, especially the blogging community is such a beautiful and supportive community, I just love it! And I loved hearing your rant! ❤

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      • And I love reading what you write… here and on twitter too… you are cool… 😎😎😎
        And I totally agree… the blogging community is awesome… I don’t have a lot of book lovers around me irl, so it’s so much fun reading blogs and connecting with other book crazy ppl like me 😜😜😜

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  2. This is such a great post!
    I’ve loved reading for almost all my life… I’m not sure quite sure exactly when it started, but I had an obsession with books long before I could actually read, so I must have been pretty little. Pretty much as soon as I learned to read fluently, I was at stage three.
    I’m not exactly sure about stage four… I’ve definitely had some of the symptoms, such as screaming at the characters whenever they’re acting stupid, sobbing over deaths of fictional characters, cursing cliffhangers and book hangovers, for a looooonngggg time, but I also didn’t really have any fandoms until I found Harry Potter a couple years ago.
    It wasn’t until last late spring/early summer that I really found the online bookish world that sent me into stage five, but I think I’m securely there now.

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    • Thank you! Ah I get what you mean. My mother used to read me bedtime stories and I hated whenever she stopped so I thought hey let me read it myself 😋
      And well the whole thing blew up 😂 That’s great, I personally feel that Stage 5 is the absolute best and the online bookish world is love ❤

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  3. Aha I loved this. I’m at the last stage for sure. I’ve been reading since I was able to, before that my parents would read to me or my grandma would. I literally have always known a world with books in it. The second hand embarrassment thing? That happens to me all the time! Honestly, it’s terrible how bad I am with that. Funnily enough I’m not part of any book fandoms per say, I’m part of band fandoms but the book fandoms…I tend to stay away from. Except The Maze Runner…but I’ve not finished that series I’ve seen the first two films and I started writing TMR fanfic at one point ooops xD

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    • Omg same! My mom used to read to me a lot and then I started reading on my own 😊 Ahhh I’m a person who gets embarrassed way too easily and I always have to close the book and squeal STOP as I bury my head in my hands or pillow like omg MC how the hades are you not embarrassed?!?!
      Ooh yaay! TMR is a small but great fandom! I ship Newtmas so hard 😍 And I’d love to read your fanfics.

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  4. Ha! This is so accurate – I think this applies to not just bookworm, but others as well. 😅

    I’ve been told I didn’t like reading at first but eventually with some nurturing, I started enjoying books… And here we are today, a dragon has emerged and is now hoarding books. I think my parents might regret their actions sometimes until they realize all I do is stay at home. 😂😂😂

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  5. This post ACCURATELY represents me a few years ago when I was HARDCORE fangirling about Vampire Academy and the Bloodlines series by Richelle Mead. I mean I still fangirl about both of these series, but not as much anymore as I found other interests in other series such as the Shatter Me series by Tahereh Mafi.

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  6. And then they say fangirling is hard. I mean all that can happen to you is that a) you’ll probably die or b) a few years later they’ll find that you have lost your mind.
    But I love this post<3. I think I have scheduled a similar post for later this month. But Fangirling is soooooo hard. I hate that stage when you find that there's is no escape. And when your favourite character dies! I wish I could buy some merch but I don't earn money and my mom would never understand why I need to buy these "useless" things. Great post Charvi! ❤

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